How You Can Foster a Mindset Shift that Kicks Your Saboteur to the Curb for Good

If you’ve ever self-sabotaged (hi! Haven’t we all?!), you will want to listen closely to this episode of the podcast. Gaby and I have such a powerful conversation about identifying the inner critic voices that are keeping you stuck and how to actively work with them to experience the success you’re meant to.

Keep reading for a recap of our conversation and don’t forget to listen to the full episode for every last detail!

Gaby’s Story

Gaby Cevallos is a life design and business coach. She’s such a joy to work with – she went through my program a year and a half ago, which was such a pleasure.

In 2016, she was thinking of completing her master’s degree and found herself following all the steps that a person SHOULD follow or the “right path” to being successful. But the truth is, she didn’t know what the next step was for her.

She was going to study social innovation and learned about something called life design. This is where you apply design thinking and is an innovation methodology to add a new perspective to your life.

While Gaby realized that life is always changing, we can’t plan for everything. As things change, so do we! She fully realized the value of having another lens in our life.

Fast forward six years, and she’s been working with well-being and mindfulness in her business.  While she knows that many people operate under the tenet of fitting their life into their work, it really should be the other way around. So, she wants her clients to embrace the idea that things can change and we can be okay with that.

Her business revolves around the idea that you can choose what you want to do. She constantly reminds herself of that, especially when taking on challenges.

What’s a Saboteur

Gaby helps her clients recognize their inner saboteurs and stop sabotaging themselves. So, we chatted about what a saboteur is. Think of it as an inner critic or a voice in your head that isn’t nice to you. Something that’s judgemental and causes stress, self-doubt, and anxiety.

Your saboteur initiates a fight or flight response and puts you into survival brain mode. It causes a spiral and a feeling that we’re not doing things the way that we should be. It’s kind of like putting ourselves on a hamster wheel.

The Different Types of Saboteurs 

So – what are the distinct saboteurs that Gaby usually works with? She shared a few with me. The first is the hyper-achiever, which is different from a high achiever. This is someone that works too much and is never happy with their achievements. They never celebrate.  Gaby experienced this herself, and she knows that it can be never-ending and something you can’t control.

The next is being a people pleaser, which is something I myself have definitely been guilty of. This is where you say yes to everything and everyone BESIDES yourself.

Don’t forget that you’re important and that you should meet your own needs. It’s common to avoid doing so when you run a business because you want so badly for your team and clients to be happy and for everyone to like you. But when you say yes to everyone else, you tend to not take care of yourself the way that you should.

Some other common saboteurs are being a perfectionist, an avoider, restless, or hyper-rational.

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Identifying and Dealing With Your Saboteur 

So you’re probably wondering how you can address the issue of your own saboteur. Gaby explained that you need to identify which type you identify with and then take their power away. You have to treat your saboteur like an entirely different person from yourself because that’s pretty much what they are.

While you’ll never fully rid yourself of them, you’ll learn how to control their tendencies and move through them successfully. You need to make their voice quieter.

You can recognize your saboteur by taking an assessment to find out which you identify with. Alternatively, think through which one you relate to most with the different traits you have. 

From there, you can move from judgment to discernment. When you’re judging yourself, it’s hard to find a solution. The judge acts from the logical area of our brains, but we need empathy – which comes from a completely different part of our brains.

The empathetic part of us softly says, “what can we do about the bad things we’re thinking?” This discernment allows us to move past our saboteurs in a more rapid way.

Inner child work to enhance empathy is an effective way to help mitigate our saboteurs from taking over. Physical activity is also something that can help a lot. Sometimes we tend to overcomplicate things, but we need to connect with ourselves in a simple and easy way.

The Effect of Gaby’s Program: The Bottom Line

Gaby’s mental fitness program does so much for her clients! She has helped them understand that they need to let go of the things they’re no longer aligned with. 

She also gives her clients the ability to make decisions with more confidence and clarity. They can take the reins of what they’re doing, impact their community, and – in turn – impact the world.

It all comes back to you, and if you work on the right things that aren’t working for you, you’ll ultimately be happier. That’s something that Gaby really helps her clients come to terms with, which is such an empowering realization.

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